Free Blogger: PUMP THAT ASS - PUMPTHATASS am a married woman, age 53, who has just settled into a retirement community with my husband, Jay. This move was his idea, as I was reluctant to leave our Mid-west home and the relationships I had there. Our marriage had been a good one, but our sex life had become stale and stagnant in the last several years. I think Jay blamed me, but I think it was mutual. We had lots of sex after we got married; but then we didn't want more than two children so sex had to be planned or circumscribed in different ways to avoid more children. I tried birth control pills, but it caused weight gain and I didn't like that. I was loath to have my tubes tied, and Jay rejected a vasectomy. Our sex life seemed to deteriorate even more as Jay worked long hours as a corporate executive. But I am getting ahead of myself. I had a few sexual relationships when I was growing up, but nothing too serious. I had a close boyfriend in college and we played around, but he graduated and we drifted apart. Then I met Jay, who was studying for his MBA.